Children need others to emulate, and they will follow the example of role models if they are available on a consistent basis. Role models need to be "real" people. Athletes and movie stars are heroes, parents and adults are role models. Every role model needs the tools to answer unique questions and help solve individual problems. We are confident that if children are given the encouragement to follow their dreams and achieve success, they will build self-confidence. This increases the likelihood that they will stay away from barriers like alcohol, drugs, tobacco, and gangs. Thus, by staying away from negative influences, children will become more self-motivated. This approach is much more effective than an ad campaign or a text book expressing the dangers of negative behavior. We believe that success in life can be achieved if one is shown the correct path. We intend to present successful people to tell their stories on how a role model helped guide them. This is an effective way to communicate the positive influence role models have in people's lives. We believe that it's important to let people know that everyone can make a difference in a child's life.

Be a Positive Role Model

* Children learn by observing - remember you are your child's most important role model.

* Provide valuable behaviors for your child to imitate, such as following a good diet and exercising regularly.

* Show that you value independence--show that you don't always have to follow the crowd, that you can make your own decisions.

* Avoid using excuses, such as a rough day for drinking alcohol; never serve your child any type of alcohol, or let them serve alcohol to guests. Children tend to have the same drinking habits parents do when they grow up.

* Talk honestly to children about stress and conflict in your life. Children need to know that such struggles are a normal part of life.

* Show that you love and value each member of your family. Plan special times or outings. Also, enjoy spontaneous activities such as going out for ice cream.

* Let children know that making changes isn't easy-it requires work for all of us. If you are trying to make a change in your own behavior, such as quitting smoking, drinking, or losing weight -talk about it openly.

Build Strong Bonds to Family and School

* Show sincere interest in your children's schoolwork. Relate common interests to school. Help your child set realistic goals, but avoid too much pressure.

* Give each child specific responsibilities at home, such as setting the table or walking the dog. This helps to develop a sense of teamwork and accomplishment.

* Praise your children for their efforts. Don't demand that they always be the best--we all have off days.

* Find activities the whole family can do without the tv or spending money. Play a game, read, build or bake something--build an appreciation for life's variety.

* Hold regular family meetings to discuss plans, routines, and problems.

* If you are too busy or tired to spend time with your child, be sure to explain the reason and arrange another time.

* Be a good listener for your child. Encourage them to speak to you and ask you questions. Show that you respect their concerns and problems.

* Show attention. Don't assume your children know they are loved - a word, a look, or a hug can make a big difference.

Prevention: The Alternatives Approach

* Alternative events programming, such as sober prom and graduation events

* Athletic and other recreational alternatives

* Adventure oriented alternatives, such as wilderness challenge courses

* Alternatives based on culture or traditions of a specific ethnic group

* Alternatives consisting of entrepreneurial ventures

* Alternatives aimed at high-risk youth (such as children of substance abusers and youth in institutional settings)

* Alternatives promoting community service

* Alternatives consisting of creative or artistic activities

* Community drop-in centers

* 4-H, Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Campfire Girls, etc.